We recently discussed how the cervix is a gateway from the vagina to the uterus, but did you know it can also be a gateway to pleasure? When we talk about orgasms in the female reproductive system, the clitoris and G-spot normally steal all of the spotlight. But behind the scenes, a new star is waiting to steal the show: the C-spot. While the G-spot is lower down in the vagina about an inch above the opening, the C-spot is high up on the cervix, and stimulating it is referred to as cervical penetration.
Penetrate what, you say? Between the cervix’s role in IUD insertion, childbirth, and getting your period, its normal to associate the cervix with pain. If the phrase cervical penetration sounds like something that would make even Christian Grey wince, get ready to go deep as we explore the stimulation method that many swear by for body-shattering orgasms.
What is Cervical Penetration?
“Cervical penetration” is a misnomer that actually refers to stimulation of the ectocervix, the donut-shaped lowest region of the cervix found at the deep end of the vagina. This type of stimulation happens when things like a penis, toy, or finger rubs or pushes up against the ectocervix. Depending on you (and your partner’s) anatomy, this is achieved through sexual positions, during rough sex, and with deep thrusting. It is one of the ways some people orgasm from vaginal penetration. You can also stimulate the cervix with toys, fingers, or a fist.
Other than when your cervix dilates to accommodate childbirth, the actual cervical opening, known as the cervical os, is usually far too small to penetrate and it is filled with mucus.
Are Cervical Orgasms Real?
There is some debate about whether or not stimulating your “C-spot” leads to actual orgasms. Some say C-spot play absolutely leads to body-shattering orgasms, others describe it as a more ongoing, intense stimulation that can’t really be classified as an orgasm per se. Potato, potahto- there isn’t much scientific research into cervical orgasms, but that certainly shouldn’t stop you from conducting your own experiments.
If cervix stimulation is new to you, remember to be gentle- you don’t want to bruise the cervix. Exercise extra caution if you have an IUD, as poking at the string that comes out of the cervix can not only be unpleasant for your partner if they have a penis, it can also cause the painfully unsexy event of making your device move. Ouch!
Some people simply aren’t into C-spot stimulation at all. Everyone’s body is different, and we don’t believe in telling you what to do with yours. If cervical stimulation isn’t for you, don’t sweat it- there are plenty of other ways to find pleasure.
How to Have C-spot Orgasms
As anyone who’s ever gone “too deep” during sex can attest to, cervical stimulation requires the proper build up and technique or it can feel quite unpleasant. In other words, don’t approach the cervix like a charging bull: warm up the body first with ample foreplay.
If you’re having penetrative sex, certain positions angle the vagina down to make the cervix more accessible, which is usually positioned towards the posterior (back) side of the vagina. Doggy style is the go-to for cervical stimulation; cowgirl is another position that works for many. You may need to experiment depending on the position and depth of your cervix.
If you’re sailing solo for your first voyage, use a longer dildo or other toy and try sitting or squatting. For less poking and more of a gentler massaging action, you can also try using your fingers.
Does Size Count?
Like all body parts, the size of a vagina varies completely from person to person, but most are on average between 3 and 7 inches long from entrance to cervix. The size of a vagina changes depending on various factors, such as how aroused someone is, whether they are pregnant, and where they are in their cycle. We think it’s an important part of sexual health to be familiar with the cervix for many reasons, so if you don’t already know how to find yours, follow these simple steps.
Since the average penis is 4.7 to 6.3 inches, most partner combinations can reach the cervix without issue, especially during doggy style. If the cervix is out of range, toys and hands are always an option.
No Gain with Pain
Cervical stimulation is not supposed to hurt. Some people may find that it’s simply too intense to be pleasurable, but even if strong stimulation is your cup of tea, being too rough during sex can lead to a bruised cervix or bleeding after sex.
While spotting after sex isn’t exactly uncommon, it shouldn’t be a constant factor in your life- regular bleeding or any ongoing pain during sex could be a sign of infection or even cervical cancer, so make sure to check in with your doctor or health provider if these symptoms continue.
Familiarity with your own body is not just a pathway to better health, it can also lead to a better sex life. January is Cervical Health Awareness month, when we cover all topics related to the cervix. For more information on how to find your cervix, cancer, and Pap smears, check out our main article on cervical health here.