WAP: Let’s talk about it
Why does your vagina get wet?
It’s criminal how much women obsess over their own vaginas. Size, appearance, scent. The comparisons to others are endless.
A study published in 2017(1) analyzed interviews with 20 women from diverse backgrounds, and found half the worries women had about their vaginas were that they might be “too wet” or “not wet enough.”(1)
Researchers also discovered, “Eleven women mentioned having anxiety about insufficient wetness, sometimes in relation to what they saw as their own bodily failure to become wet,” and “Six women mentioned feelings of anxiety related to their vaginal lubrication and wetness, blaming lack of wetness on their failing personal bodies rather than partner dynamics.”
On the flip side, a few of the women in the study were in their heads about being too wet, with researchers describing “These feelings about ‘‘excessive’’ wetness connected to other anxieties about being normal or tasting bad to a partner, again revealing how ‘‘noise’’ from other aspects of women’s sexuality impacts their feelings about vaginal lubrication.” What an effing minefield.
No one could blame you for suddenly popping your eyes open in the middle of the night, snatching your phone up and Googling something like “is my vagina too wet” or “is my vagina not wet enough?” Especially if you’re just starting to think about your vagina’s wetness level for the first time.
Here’s the great news - there is no such thing as “too wet” or “too dry” when it comes to your vagina, and here’s why.
According to this study and others like it, many scientists and medical professionals have concluded there are about an infinite number of factors that may affect individual variations in vaginal wetness, and even these factors can change over time.
The reason you get wet when you’re aroused is because your mind makes the body connection to signal your cervix and your Bartholin’s glands, which are fascinating, BTW, to release a fluid that wets the inner walls of your vagina. Surprised this lil tidbit of info didn’t make it into the final version of WAP? Us too. ;)
Let’s test it now. Check out this gif of Prince. Nothing? Ok, think about whatever you think you would need to think about to get aroused. I’ll wait. Those of you who rock with Prince, let’s roll.
However wet you are right now, or later on, or when you’re a little old person happily retired having survived a pandemic, is the exact right amount of wet. It is literally all in your head. Whatever is usual for you, is how it’s supposed to be.
Considering all this, I’m not a doctor. I read studies published by doctors, but I am not one, so if you are concerned about your vaginal health, or if you’ve noticed changes in your vagina such as a major difference in wetness or changes in the color of your discharge, Planned Parenthood provides free to low-cost services, including pap smears, STD testing and contraception. They also accept donations.
- Fahs, Breanne. “Slippery Desire: Women’s Qualitative Accounts of Their Vaginal Lubrication and Wetness.” Feminism & Psychology 27.3 (2017): 280–297. Web.
Rachel Kane is a Blewish (half black/half Jewish) writer living in L.A. with her dog, cat and husband. Her favorite film is “Showgirls” and her favorite word is “yes. Follower Rachel @WTForever21